There are roughly three stages in extra-personal development.
1. The Selfish : You tell people what they want to hear.
2. The Truthsayer : You tell people what they need to hear.
3. The Altruistic : You tell people what they need to hear when they are ready.
I am assuming John cares about Jack. If he still ignores Jack, then John is part of the Selfish. He is misled by just short-term benefits.
The Selfish and the Altruistic appear to do the same thing initially: not say anything nor interrupting during Overwatch. But they end differently. The Selfish ends his thought with just that moment. The Altruistic waits with intent to strike.
This is not a dichotomy between people who lie and are egotistical VERSUS people who are always honest. There is a third group of people who are both caring and more prudent with their tools. They are the Altruistic, those who wait to tell people exactly what they need to hear. And the Altruistic ultimately change people and society, because they understand people and society better.
They know how persuasion works. Truthsayers don't. In fairness, truthsayers die a lonely death, without having made meaningful change. Their audience was only themselves.
There are roughly three stages in extra-personal development.
I'm interested to learn some more. Is it your personal classification or do you base it on some research, literature etc.? Could you recommend something to read on a subject of extra-personal development?
If I had to trace my thoughts, I would point to Lord Chesterfield, Neil Strauss, and Dale Carnegie, in that order.
Also lots of efforts to change people's (read: friends) behavioral patterns. I think, especially for psychology, most valuable insights come from experience, not books. Read the books, and apply the principles.
1. The Selfish : You tell people what they want to hear.
2. The Truthsayer : You tell people what they need to hear.
3. The Altruistic : You tell people what they need to hear when they are ready.
I am assuming John cares about Jack. If he still ignores Jack, then John is part of the Selfish. He is misled by just short-term benefits.
The Selfish and the Altruistic appear to do the same thing initially: not say anything nor interrupting during Overwatch. But they end differently. The Selfish ends his thought with just that moment. The Altruistic waits with intent to strike.
This is not a dichotomy between people who lie and are egotistical VERSUS people who are always honest. There is a third group of people who are both caring and more prudent with their tools. They are the Altruistic, those who wait to tell people exactly what they need to hear. And the Altruistic ultimately change people and society, because they understand people and society better.
They know how persuasion works. Truthsayers don't. In fairness, truthsayers die a lonely death, without having made meaningful change. Their audience was only themselves.