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I also went with moissanite. My wife (then girlfriend) was in the "2-3 months salary for a diamond" camp which I find incredibly crass. Saved $15k on the diamond by going with moissanite and spent a fraction of that on getting a nice custom ring + wedding band made by an independent local jeweler instead. I was happy to support a local craftsman rather than DeBeers & co.


Did you tell her about the nature of the stone ?

That sounds like a disaster to come if she doesn't know, and she learns it by going to the jeweler to clean / repair the stone.


Yeah I told her exactly what it was when I gave it to her. We had had several discussions prior about my feelings about the diamond industry and the surrounding social expectations, so she knew I wasn't going to get her a diamond.


Life Pro-Tip: don't marry a woman that will feel unvalued by the stone in the wedding ring.

Spend the money in something better and that will further the relationship, like the honeymoon.


Better yet, stick it in an index tracker fund for 30 years and when you’re 60 you’ll have a million in the bank.

Which you won’t spend anyway because you’ll have nothing and no one to spend it on. But smugness and pride are truly priceless.


60x return in say 35 years is a pretty damn good index fund, can you tell me where to get that?


I suppose technically the post doesn’t specify a currency.


>>Spend the money in something better and that will further the relationship, like the honeymoon.

Honeymoon's over. Ever heard that? I was thinking more in the buy a home or invest in stocks


Can you elaborate? You mean the fact all are synthethic (for hewlery purpose) or something else?


If she thought I gave her an expensive diamond and then learned from a jeweler that it was in fact a moissanite I would expect her to be upset about me misleading her.


2-3 months of salary for me would be a substantial contribution towards a deposit for a flat.My fiancé would smack my face if I'd spend it on a shining rock )


Did her perspective change or does she believe she got an expensive diamond?


I was upfront with her about my dislike for the diamond industry and my feelings about spending 3 months salary on a diamond. I told her that I wasn't getting her a diamond and told her exactly what it was when I gave it to her.

I don't think I changed her perspective necessarily, but she knows what she got and respected my reasons for that decision. She didn't break up with me over it anyway.




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