There is nothing clueless about observation that people start playing games way sooner then they seek partners. There is nothing clueless about observation that it has social component - bonding among guys. In particular gamers tend to have whole social life composed of other gamers.
The guys you described are not failing to meet some super high expectations. You described people with drug and alcohol issues who have game addiction issues on top.
Romantic relationship is not the only source of company and relationships. You can't depend on one person for all your social and emotional needs.
There are slightly more girls then males at any given moment. There are plenty of single women around the world. They don't blame missing guys for their alcoholism (through plenty of them have other issues)
>You described people with drug and alcohol issues who have game addiction issues on top.
I had no such thing in mind at all. Not sure if me or you misread this subthread, but blaming guys who cannot find a local match for their depression (if they take place; this idea was brought out of nowhere) seems too prejudicial, while more prosaic explanations exist - they cannot compete at their best.
Op was like “girls in town choose foreigners so local guys feel like loser”, and you jumped to “they are all game addicts, and drugs, and alcohol, their fault”.
Nah, it was not merely depression. Full quote: "men of town have drowned themselves in video games, porn and drinking/drugs". Which is way more then being depressed. It does not matter whose is to be blamed, but dating anyone like that is receipt for unavailable alcoholic partner. And she won't meet him anyway, cause he is moving solely among males.
His explanation is "because they've no meaningful relationships", but then he proceed to define meaningfull relationships as romantic only.
No girl can fix any of that. They can't fix lack of friendship, can't fix lack of familly relationships, can't fix no roots in local community. Women are not rewards for good behavior nor cure for mental health problems. If you expect any of that, you will end up ressentful of partner who won't be able to provide that much.
Having long term partner is not cure all, nor cure for depression or loneliness. Not in long term, not after initial honeymoon passionate period ends.
I doubt that majority of town girls have foreign long distance intercultural partners. Such relationships are quote hard to keep and generally rare. Despite there being some girls with foreign boyfriend, majority will date local or not at all.
And plenty of girls have depressions on their own, mental health problems, bad habits, possibly own addiction struggles. Problems in families with relatives or on the job.
The guys you described are not failing to meet some super high expectations. You described people with drug and alcohol issues who have game addiction issues on top.
Romantic relationship is not the only source of company and relationships. You can't depend on one person for all your social and emotional needs.
There are slightly more girls then males at any given moment. There are plenty of single women around the world. They don't blame missing guys for their alcoholism (through plenty of them have other issues)