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My observations hint at two primary reasons:

older women who would be uncomfortable telling men that they are "doing it wrong"

Differing standards for moms and dads. I get kudos for doing anything with my kids. She gets told she is parenting wrong



I got suspicious staring for playing with my kids in public. She could play with other people's kids without even asking.


People say this a lot online but I've never seen it happen, even when I play with other people's kids.

I wonder where the culture is so different, or if this is a case of people reading into (ugh) "resting bitch face"


In my case, I seem to have "resting pedophile face". It sucks, but we all have our burdens to bear.


Yeah, I had a bit of a baby face when I first became a parent so got some of those same things. As soon as one of them called me "daddy" the ice melted


Maybe people are just making conversation and you shouldn't put so much stock in others sharing their opinions?


I've never hard of people making conversation by telling them how they're doing things wrong, except when it comes to raising kids. How often do you hear stuff like this from random strangers:

It's too cold for shorts.

You're pushing that shopping cart wrong.

You need to wash your car.

That's a lot of ice cream in your shopping cart, maybe you should try eating something else.


>How often do you hear stuff like this from random strangers?

Regularly - when the critic feels the object of their derision is out of earshot.

Parents presume what feedback they get and they're usually right.


To expand, I often find that, if I feel strongly about a piece of feedback, it's because a part of me agrees with it. It says more about me than it does the other person.


Going from "People being critical of your wife and not you for the same actions is just conversation!" to trying to guilt a guy for...pointing out that his wife experiences sexism...is pretty strange.


I'm not trying to "guilt" anybody. Please don't spin my words.

My two points are related. I recall hearing comments like that when my spouse and I had one infant child, and I remember taking them more personally, because it's easy as a new parent to feel like you should be doing more. Now if I hear someone comment on something I'm doing as a parent, it's just conversation, and I think the primary difference was my confidence in my own parenting ability.


Totally makes sense, thanks




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