I found once I dropped certain stoic, masculine behaviours I felt expected from society I became more productive and a better person. There are a lot of people who show subtle hostility to me now (both men and women) but it's honestly not worth worrying what other people think. I'm way too relieved most days.
Lot of folks get upset when men mention getting upset at something. Ex. "That hurt my feelings." "I don't like that you said that." "That made me happy." "Wow I feel great." Etc.
Men are commonly expected to be stoic and not express such things and just "go about their day". If they don't, it's viewed as dramatic and over-expressive. It's interpreted as immaturity, imo.
Off the top of my head, the things I do more now are:
- putting more effort into my appearance in nontraditional ways (eg: makeup, androgynous clothing, haircuts, etc.)
- mentioning that I'm frustrated by something
- acting naturally when people might be goading me into confrontational behaviour
