This is the opposite of what I teach my sons about men and women. The truth is, women are every bit as capable of being shitheads as men. Gender plays zero role in a person’s capacity to empathize, be trustworthy, and love. I think we set men up for failure when we encourage them to put women on a pedestal. There’s the risk they do that and don’t get the results they’re after and develop a strong bias against women—all because they’ve been misinformed their whole life about gender roles and behavior.

I think GP is saying women face greater risk than men in dating and society. (I’m using man/woman here instead of male/female as the former seems less clinical)

I honestly wonder at this and prefer to not take a stance as I have too little information. Watching some reflections from transgender people after their transitions may help. I’ve heard female to male trans report society treating men with much less care. Meanwhile I imagine women get a lot more engagement from society than men.

If you have a boy then you only have to worry about one boy. If you have a girl then you have to worry about all the boys.

They said their standards for a mate based a lot on their father and he he treats the mother. So just be a good role model.

> most teenage boys and men are pieces of shit when it comes to actually loving and caring about her (just like I was in some cases with flings and tempromances that were more about excitement than deep, long-term love and affection).

Do you worry about your teenage sons acting this way?

Presumably, but considering the fact that we're programmed to care more about our family than the rest of the world, it's unlikely he'll be as worried about the situation he's described than the opposite.