If you turn up a few times after destroying the gearbox from shifting into reverse on the highway, they might have a word. I don't condone the berating, I just mean to point out the source of the conflict [0]. A car (especially a modern one) abstracts away its insides much better than a database or network does, too.
[0] The mechanic is also being paid by you to fix your screwup, in proportion to the severity of the screwup. Your colleague is not.
Most mechanics I know would grumble a bit after the third time. It's a bear of a job, and they'd make more profit doing twenty oil changes in the same amount of time.
The DBA's job doesn't generally extend to fixing your code to use database features correctly, write SQL in a sane way, etc. Even if it does at your company, unlike the mechanic they're not being paid by you to do that work; they get their salary regardless. So it's natural that if you keep bringing unpleasant work to them because you're bad at your own job, they're going to get upset.
[0] The mechanic is also being paid by you to fix your screwup, in proportion to the severity of the screwup. Your colleague is not.