The thing is that you can’t look at evolution and sexual selection from the perspective of ”this particular thing makes the most sense or seems to be the optimum, and so of course nature has made things such”.
An urge can be very strong and provide just a little benefit, and still remain. It can be weak and enormously beneficial, and still just be prevalent in a small part of the population. It can even be not beneficial at all, and just be a remnant from when it was, or even a byproduct of something else.
So you can’t discount biology, especially when looking at the wider population, just because you think that for whatever reason whatever the thing that caused the evolutional pressure for the behavior you’re observing isn’t valid anymore. And even if that’s true, you’re probably lagging a few hundred, thousand or tens of thousands of years behind.
An urge can be very strong and provide just a little benefit, and still remain. It can be weak and enormously beneficial, and still just be prevalent in a small part of the population. It can even be not beneficial at all, and just be a remnant from when it was, or even a byproduct of something else.
So you can’t discount biology, especially when looking at the wider population, just because you think that for whatever reason whatever the thing that caused the evolutional pressure for the behavior you’re observing isn’t valid anymore. And even if that’s true, you’re probably lagging a few hundred, thousand or tens of thousands of years behind.