Thanks for your vulnerability and sharing your story. Good for you for moving forward and moving on, glad it's working out for you. I've been in several bad situations, maybe not quite as bad as yours, and every time I get out I have nearly the same realization as you did - it just wasn't worth it. Whatever valid reasons I thought I had for staying were almost never worth the anguish and pain of sticking it out. I resent those people and situations too, and I try to fight it by remembering that resentment is like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies.