A corollary I think for me was that for many of the same reasons I didn't recognize the problems -- or maybe because I didn't recognize the problems -- others really couldn't grasp the depths of them either. Sometimes I think other people are better at recognizing problems than you are if there's a bad situation, but sometimes (maybe more often than society realizes) I think people just tend to assume that their functional situation applies everywhere, and so interpret things through that lens. So if you complain about X, they tend to (subconsciously maybe even) think "oh they must have not really meant X, they must have meant less serious version of X".
A corollary I think for me was that for many of the same reasons I didn't recognize the problems -- or maybe because I didn't recognize the problems -- others really couldn't grasp the depths of them either. Sometimes I think other people are better at recognizing problems than you are if there's a bad situation, but sometimes (maybe more often than society realizes) I think people just tend to assume that their functional situation applies everywhere, and so interpret things through that lens. So if you complain about X, they tend to (subconsciously maybe even) think "oh they must have not really meant X, they must have meant less serious version of X".