When I was learning AppKit, I just went to something something apple developer portal and read the relevant guides. Things may have changed since 2010, but back then these were beautiful compared to MDN (imo, iirc).
Just googled “AppKit development guides”. Yes, they changed to a reference format, what a shame.
The issue is exactly this. More and more people are coming into the development space using HTML/CSS/JavaScript and the information on the other technologies is harder to grasp and get a hold of.
You mean those books that have not been updated for years, with tons of deprecated APIs, using bad practice or confusing examples, and as a beginner you don't have anyone to talk to about the material?
You may want to go to a public library and see what books they actually have. Those are not good stuff. I have actually looked at those, have you?
At least on Youtube you have a comment section where people discuss the material. Or if you are willing to pay some money, udemy provides some decent discussions and Q/A. And there are even better options out there.
Old books about Windows or Mac programming have all sorts of information that has apparently been mostly lost.
Two books I remember, perhaps not the best, but definitely with information that transcends specific technical details, are Bruce Tognazzini's Tog on Interface (or Tog on Software Design), and Charles Petzold's Programming Windows 95. The original "Inside Macintosh" series also comes to mind.
Oh another issue I found was that there are way more people being condescending about native desktop development, than there are people who teach native desktop development
or is it that there are less bootcamps teaching OS native app UI development as there are JS front end library usage?