Yeah, I'm the same exact way. I've had casual sex a few times, and felt repulsed and depressed to an extreme degree for the next few days after.
It bothers me greatly and the memories of the casual sex alone freaking kill me when they surface.
It doesn't help that I'm a college drop-out, have no family around, and most of my friends are distant now. And single. And don't know to meet people.
Fuck I need to figure out a hobby that involves interacting with other people.
Actually, I think that'll be my next ask reddit/yc posts.
Maybe a targeted question like that will work.
Either way, yeah, I'm the same way. I have to at least care about her to enjoy it at all. Interestingly, the girl I enjoyed sex with the most, was a virgin when we started dating. The reason she was so good was her enthusiasm and that she displayed how much she cared for me even in bed.
It just magnified the quality of the whole experience.
Hrm. Nostalgia is killing me. I'd better slough off to bed.
Good luck in sharing this weakness we both seem to have.
Best of luck with finding a hobby! Tell me if you post it on Reddit: I'd like to see the answers.
I'm still a virgin, because - somehow - I still believe in abstinence until marriage. No clue how long that will last. And I find it really sad that people tend to become cynical about lust and sex and romance. Thanks to that, the best relationship I had started with the girl being with another (pretty awful) guy: we got really interested in each other at least in part because it was so clandestine at first, so larger-than-life.
And I don't know if it's because of youth or not, but I loathe people who are very into romance and very against any sort of physical contact. I think that's like the exact reverse of casual sex and it's just as bad. There needs to be a balance.
It bothers me greatly and the memories of the casual sex alone freaking kill me when they surface.
It doesn't help that I'm a college drop-out, have no family around, and most of my friends are distant now. And single. And don't know to meet people.
Fuck I need to figure out a hobby that involves interacting with other people.
Actually, I think that'll be my next ask reddit/yc posts.
Maybe a targeted question like that will work.
Either way, yeah, I'm the same way. I have to at least care about her to enjoy it at all. Interestingly, the girl I enjoyed sex with the most, was a virgin when we started dating. The reason she was so good was her enthusiasm and that she displayed how much she cared for me even in bed.
It just magnified the quality of the whole experience.
Hrm. Nostalgia is killing me. I'd better slough off to bed.
Good luck in sharing this weakness we both seem to have.
Cheers mate.