Personal sympathetic anecdote: I played role playing games in my teens. After I began dating one of my gamer guy friends, I was, unfortunately, prone to being treated like I was just tagging along, in spite of it being a regular group who all knew me to be a gamer. I would have been more offended except I could understand why certain things I did promoted such responses: I used gaming as a means to avoid an unhappy family situation, so I sometimes did sleep on the couch while others played rather than go home.

I didn't have a driver's license or car, so was dependent on others for a ride. If the group chose to play a game that didn't interest me, I went to sleep on the couch until we all left together. So it somewhat annoyed me that my actions got interpretted that way when there were other explanations but I also could kind of understand why.