"It"? What is this "it"? If you think of your betrothed as an "it" I would suggest you're not ready to marry anyone.

(I know, this meme is out there, but you've given me an opportunity to protest it, so I am.)

He's quoting a song.

I assume from the quoted song lyrics, "it" is "her finger." How is that not appropriate?

Ah, the ever-catchy "If you love her finger, put a ring on it."

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