Just a piece of advice for a fellow coder/architect: Try out some meditation of some sort after you get off work, and before you crack open the beer. I have noticed a huge improvement in my ability to relax at night after starting this about 6 months ago. All I really do is 20 minutes of yoga right when I get home, and it has made all the difference. I always love beer, but it just tastes better when my mind is not stuck on whether or not the hotfix I shimmed into the API earlier to have things ready for the big meeting will explode in the middle of the night and trigger a bunch of angry emails.