"The only way to reconcile their thoughts and actions is to explain that, in fact, they must really love this job and therefore should work hard at it"
That is not the only other way to reconcile their thoughts and actions. They can beat themselves up for not taking the money / regret their choice ('I am so stupid for not taking that money, I hate this job'). I know plenty of people who beat themselves up on a regular day to day basis about all sorts of life choices they wish they had made differently.
That is not the only other way to reconcile their thoughts and actions. They can beat themselves up for not taking the money / regret their choice ('I am so stupid for not taking that money, I hate this job'). I know plenty of people who beat themselves up on a regular day to day basis about all sorts of life choices they wish they had made differently.